Just before getting to write this and when I was about to unlock my laptop, with a surge of emotions and desperation to write something .. I mistakenly entered my password as “Friends” . I am in 2019, a little short of the year where the then friends series character ROSS is filming video for his daughter in 2002 and says it is 2020 now and we want to deliver this message we shot for you in 18 years back and we give it to you now.
It extremely unlikely that a woman me of 34 years old now, down after an accident and immobile for the past 5 months, took to the rescue of “Friends” as I always heard it back from school friends between 1995 to 2000 and pretended to have seen is as I could not tell them the least i did not have was not about the Cable connection but I din’t even have a color TV. Friends episode description sounded alien to me and could never figure out what the hell made people talk so much about it.
Yeah and a women aspiring for a great career and to prove that it’s not about the state of being than it is about how unpredictably awesome life is. I know that the late 2000’s would have allowed me to watch the sitcom by having those resources handy to do them, but it was not the time and it still had weird animosity with the series which kept me so inferior with my friends.
So today on 18th July, 2019, possible some 19 years after my 10th standard, I started watching the friends series with a subconscious hatred, and being on the bed for 5 months. Well thanks to netflix who kept each episode so organised just the female Geller would have loved to.
After watching all episodes of 10 seasons, and having finished the last one 5 minutes back when I just started to write this piece, here is what I feel about the series..
We all go through phases of life and how each one of us has given up on our school and college days and early years in careers struggling and making it memorable because of the people we had around us, we still moved on. The biggest lesson I learnt from the series is moving on- is growing.. The series could have still had a very happy ending where it just could have said “Friends Forever” but instead they chose to depict growing and moving on in life as integral.. No matter where we are or how happy we were in a certain place we all have moved on for the better, better career, better place, better salary, better connections we all have done that. How wrong would it have been to leave the episodes the same way and let people feel they are practically not going to have changes in their lives would have been so unnatural to the civilised human lives.
The second feeling which a lot of the 90’s kids would still have is, isn’t it a piece of sheer excellence that the series still touches so many lives. When I met with an accident, single, female, 34, four surgeries, 3 hospitalisations, and a workaholic fanatic, would not be able to spend a single day at home, who could imagine her being home for 4 consecutive months where her only window to the outside world, was her balcony and the sounds of vehicles which made it so natural to know while someone out there is leading a routine life , somebody else if struggling to get normal life back. For me it was the series that kept me up and eager. NO one can believe if I said I know how Mathew perry or courtney Cox looks now was my first look of the actors and I then saw the 18 years old characters.So when I was watching chandler I knew how he would look when he gets older. But their characters were immortal stories of them than themselves. What a piece of mastery it still continues to touch lives with. How beautiful it is to build something that is a master class and will continue to affect lives positively. Just if everyone thought as their purpose of life ?
While watching the whole series back to back and then wachthing the last episode there never was a moment where it felt that I could watch something else, what else could a bed ridden trauma patient do. But it never felt there was something else better, if you compare this to the whole lives we spend dont we end to loose track of times when we are doing what we are supposed to do. The times that have made us forget the time are the things that we should be doing. While I look back and start taking a look at my life, I feel the routines ones are nowhere. Close your eyes and think of the times and things that you loved doing the most, are you there now? If not you got to be! And if you do not see a large part of life you have spent somewhere doing something than its a introspect time for you..
After seeing the friends finale i do feel there is an end to everything, not matter what, no matter how good or bad or unpredictable state you are in, everything has an end, Why do we still peep back and slant forward when being where you are is a moment of celebration. The hardest part of life is something that never is going to be constant, or permanent, are you making the most of what you have. Even it means as simple as waking up each morning ?
Thank you “Friends” !!